They have not eaten enough, if they do not oblige them to feed they will not grow – Starting from the certainty that western populations take too many calories compared to their consumption, any pediatrician will agree that when a child is hungry he eats. There is therefore no danger of malnutrition in a child who is acting up , is temporarily inappetent or does not like a particular food. What must be marked is a healthy relationship with food , avoiding giving food the double value of obligation-consolation.
That game is too dangerous, it will hurt – except in certain cases, slides and gamessimilar do not usually constitute a real danger for the children of the house. In fact, these are play structures specifically designed to guarantee the safety of children. Obviously, children should always be checked but at a distance. Avoid any type of possible risk (for example, if a knee falls or fades), it will only be useful to reduce the adult’s anxiety but it will not be a good prerequisite for growth. The latter, in fact, is a path that also needs to make mistakes, fall and get up again.
It’s not big enough to hang out with friends – the age when you start with “evening” autonomyit cannot be determined equally for all, indeed it must be modulated taking into account numerous variables. Among the factors to be considered: personal degree of maturity of the subject, ability to manage unforeseen circumstances and different return times calibrated according to age. Therefore, there is no need to advance decisively, based only on maternal-paternal fear. But by observing your child, you can decide when and how to make it more and more autonomous. Without external intrusion.
Do not send him on a school trip, he will cry all the time – Especially when a child is small, the tendency of grandparents is often to discourage any concession of autonomy, which seems excessive in relation to the age of the child. An example, above all, is theschool trip that includes several nights away from home. Or the classic summer colony . One of the first factors to consider about this is that these structures are not concentration camps and that teachers (or educators, in general) are absolutely prepared for any eventuality. Furthermore, it is true that children can cry because they miss their parents, but these are transient episodes, of crises that most of the times can be managed independently by the children themselves.
Better with grandparents than at the nest – A great classic, very controversial among mothers . If a woman needs to go back to workwhen the child is still small, he must feel free to choose what he considers most appropriate and suitable for the education of his child. If the mother wants the baby to stay with her grandparents , so be it. But if parents feel that the nest can be a better solution from an educational point of view, they should be able to choose without intrusions or family influences. The nursery , in fact, is a place of growth, education and experimentation. A context of competence and quality, designed specifically for the serenity of the little ones. If the question raised by the grandparents concerns the frequency of illness, it is true that at the nursery the children will often get sick but all this will avoid the same routine of various illnesses at the schoolmaternal.